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[Belasius]

Never think of life ahead of time; that's why your at the stage that you are. If you want something to mold into what you want you must take actions NOW. Maybe it wasn't meant to be, just be supportive for their relationship, if it doesn't work out with them and he feels he has more feelings for you then make it work!! "TIME WAITS FOR NO ONE"

[Valandur]

hey Hun,
don't worry i had the same thing happen to me. talk to him or your best friend and tell them how you feel.
good luck

[Celepharn]

Oh the impatience of youth. You don't say how old you are. You also didn't say what led to your breakup - if you broke if off or he did.

You may not be the love of his life. And you both may need to grow up a bit. or maybe you broke it off and have hurt him and he needs time to get over it.

I can remember feeling as you did, though the girl who dated him after I got trapped into breaking up (dumb of me) wasn't a friend of mine. But he married her eventually. I was way too young and he was 4 years older. i had a lot of growing up to do. I later met him and realized that I'd never have been really happy with him. I think he was working as a clerk at a little store sort of like KMart and I was married to a store manager and was going to college and I realized when we talked that I had grown up more than he had.

I had pined for him for a long time after I broke up with him and felt I did the wrong thing to break up. He was graduating from high school and I was graduating from junior high at the time we broke up. I went through some boyfriends after him and you will likely as well.

If you are young, they will probably break up eventually and you'll have your chance again. But do not go after your friends boyfriend now. Neither might appreciate it and you could lose two good friends. If it is meant to be then things will happen. In the meantime you need to get on with your life and have some fun and meet other people and get to know what qualities you want in a guy. Don't get involved in sex as you can't get to know someone once you are involved seually. hard to talk and get to know one another when you are groping in the dark. Not a good idea.

Good luck to you. Be patient. And you can wait longer. Or you may screw up your life more by losing those two friends. And loe the respect of others who know them and you.

[AbbyF]

If you break them up, you are not going to be the only one to get hurt. Best case scenario, he feels the same way you do, and you get him back. But at a price.....you WILL most likely lose your best friend. Worst case scenario, he has moved on, is over you, and now has feelings for you friend. In that case, you will still lose your best friend, and if you don't lose him all together, it will be incredibly awkward between the two of you. To top it off, you will feel like a creep and regret the decision for the rest of your life for what you've done to your best friend. IF they don't work out, you might approach her with the problem after a reasonable time. It's still not good to go after your best friend's ex, but since she has already broken that code, I think it's acceptable....but only if their relationship ends without your interference. If you want to keep them both though, keep your distance and let it play out naturally. If you are truly meant to be with him, it will work out in the end. If not, this could just be preparing you for the person you are truly meant to be with. Try getting some distance from the situation. Don't hang out with them as much, and instead try hanging out with other friends you don't get to spend much time with. A little distance might make the situation atleast a little more bearable. Just try to remember that whatever decision you make, you will have to live with, so make sure you are committed to consequences before you do something rash.