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[phoebe]

hello guys, im from the philippines. 18yrs. of age. and i really need to hear some of your advice.
see i love this guy so much even when before i got pregnant on him.
now our baby is 4months old. and since then he never showed me love.
but never had i lose any hope for him to someday love me in return.. .
i was always there for him even when the time i knew he was cheating on me.
he shouts at me insulting words you'll ever heard.
tells me things like i will never be his princess.. .
but i dont understand,. he used to be the sweetest guy to me when i was still months pregnant.. .
until i dont know what had got into him when we became close like more than friends.. .
my life with him was as deep as hell.. .
i never love the way he treated me. but still i was waiting for his love.
i gave up everything just to please him until i dont know what to do anymore.
its his pride thats tearing us apart.
.. .pls help me what to do. i love him so. and we have a son.
i understand that were still young cause he's only 18 too.
but shall i do? should i wait for him years from now? or forget everything about him and accept the fact that im just a friend in his sight.. .

[tom]

I think,it'll hard for you.I know it,but plz,don't do anything stupid,miss.
Coz,you've ur son of him.If u want to do something,think about ur son,first.
so,finally u must tell ur opinion to ur boyfriend openly...and do waht u have to do....
take care urself....

[Steven]

you are a very young couple. It was not really reasonable to have a baby. But if you did, you have to understand that 18 years for a boy is a very and very young age. He doesn't want to live a family life. He will try to find other girls, entertainment etc.
My advice to you is to find an elder man, let's say about 30, who would be ready to love you and your baby! good luck!

[waweta]

ur young and ur life dont stop here in contrary it starts here thank god u discovered his reality. . its hard for u but endure it for the sake of your baby .treat him like his treatment life is not just him.and remember most men are like that.

[Terry]

ur young and ur life dont stop here in contrary it starts here thank god u discovered his reality. . its hard for u but endure it for the sake of your baby .treat him like his treatment life is not just him.and remember most men are like that.

yes, but in this case, he's not a man he's a boy! Terry I think is right - a new experienced man can change her life!

[ianne_27]

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girl i think you should move on...for yourself and for the child...he's not worth for the love you're giving him..think of your baby..i know it will be hard and i know it will tear you down...but be strong for your child...she/he(the baby) is the one who is really worth of your love and affection...trust me..you'll never regret it...cause i know how it feels to be betrayed by the man you love....

[Benn]

no, maybe he's behaving like this because he needs to be educated in this sense. So, a little course of "how to be a father" may help him. What about laws, can't the law protect you somehow?

[Rina]

JST WAIT FOR SOME TIME... THINK ABT UR' SMALL BABY... WAT WILL HAPPEN TO HIS FUTURE..SOME DAY HE WILL REALIZE EVERYTHIN... ND WILL CUM BAK TO U.. JST TREAT THE BEST TO HIM... BEST OF LUCK ND TC

[Benn]

JST WAIT FOR SOME TIME... THINK ABT UR' SMALL BABY... WAT WILL HAPPEN TO HIS FUTURE..SOME DAY HE WILL REALIZE EVERYTHIN... ND WILL CUM BAK TO U.. JST TREAT THE BEST TO HIM... BEST OF LUCK ND TC

No Rina, you're not right! By the time he returns to her, too much time will pass, and the child will already be grown-up! So what I'm telling you is that she needs to decide right now what she's gonna do: either she lives with him and make him a good father, or she forgets him. I'd suggest the first option!

[M.Helen]

what were YOU thinking about when you made that child! Pleasure is pleasure but you have to stay in your right MIND! Protect yourself! I don't know what to tell you, a child means responsibilty.

[Grandmother]

Please ask the advice of your parents or siblings. I would leave this guy to get on with growing up.
He used you and never loved you, just took advantage of you. He is not worth bothering about. It won't be easy for you but make sure you DON'T get pregnant by him again. Move out if you can, try and go back to your family or a shelter for unmarried mothers. Don't hang around this guy, he will only bring you misery. You have to be strong for your little boy and some day he will thank you for it.

[Faw_Peter]

he didn't use her intentionally, he's a boy - 18 years means he's a kid! Give him a chance, when the child is born, he might change.

[thahira]

hey friend as i think you should now live your life for your small son.now he needs your love and care . the guy whome you love more than you if he dosent need you then forget him and go for such guys again to spoil your life.love your son and when he grows up to 18 then tell him that not to destroy a girls life like his father did yours.

[Benn]

hey friend as i think you should now live your life for your small son.now he needs your love and care . the guy whome you love more than you if he dosent need you then forget him and go for such guys again to spoil your life.love your son and when he grows up to 18 then tell him that not to destroy a girls life like his father did yours.

...if you do that, make sure you apply to a lawyer so that a legal ksuit could oblige him to pay alimony until the child is 18.

[turkeywithlove]

True Love" is boundless and immeasurable and overcomes all forms of adversity. In truth, if it is genuine, it will grow stronger with each assault upon its existence BUT FOR NOW, YOU HAVE TO CONSIDER THAT GOD HAS GIVEN YOU AN ANGEL WHO NEEDS YOU MORE THAN ANYTHING IN THIS WORLD..AND BELIEVE THAT IN TIME AND AT THE RIGHT PLACE THERE WILL COME A ONE TRUE HAPPINESS THAT WILL LINGER FOREVER BECAUSE WE ARE BORN TO BE WITH SOMEONE AND FOR SOMEONE..LOVE IS A GIFT NOT AN OBLIGATION.. LOVE IS GOD AND HIM YOU TRUST.

[M.Helen]

if the God made us for being with somebody, why then it happens that we never live our whole lives with one person? Love is an invention...

[Echo]

Pheobe,

Ang masasabi ko sayo, ituon mo muna ang attention mo sa anak mo. Mas kailangan niya ang pagmamahal na ibinibigay mo sa taong indi naman nagpapahalaga sa damdamin mo. When you decided to make that baby naniniwla akong alam ninyo pareho kung anong kasunod noon (and please dont make it a reason that both of you are only 18, our parents have been telling us from time to time BE RESPONSIBLE!) para sa akin, ang tunay na pagmamahal ay nauuna nang isipin ang kapakanan ng taong minamahal ngayon at sa hinaharap.

There is no need for you to wait for the guy. Begging for his love is a waste of time...stand up ! be strong for yourself and your child. E ano kung di kana niya mahal? E, ano kung ayaw niyang panagutan ang bata? May magmamahal pa sayo ...darating yon sa tamang panahon. What's today, is for you to raise your child and be self-sufficient. Time will come magpapakita ulit sayo ang lalaking yan, its up to him to make atonement --- if it is not too late.

[Terry]

(and please dont make it a reason that both of you are only 18, our parents have been telling us from time to time BE RESPONSIBLE!

I don't think you were very much responsible at the age of 18?!