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[Giuliana]

Of course parents want for their child a person that would be close to their culture, nation. But it happens sometimes that persons belonging to different nationalities, different cultures fall in love. This happened to me. Almost unexpectedly I fall in love with a boy whose nation is very different from mine. Moreover, he is too far from me, but this is not the thing that may stop us be together. Another thing, that makes this love be hard for me is that our parents do not agree our relationship. And it's very difficult when you almost have to choose between the person you want to spend your life with......and your family. Can someone just suggest me what shall we do in such situation??!!!

[Laurentine]

It depends on the person in part, because there are people who will never change its culture and country, will never agree to move to another country and change its nationality. Break out its principles and live for another one. It is a serious step, I don't think that there are many happy couples which have different nationality.

[Big_Becka]

Giuliana - the sensible part of me says "you should be careful!" You are very vulnerable in a foreign country, and sometimes these guys will try to sell your internal organs, or traffick you If you visit a guy that you met off the internet, make sure that your friends and family know where you are, and make sure you meet him in a public place.

The other part of me says "Go for it!" You deserve to be in love, and there are couples who can make this work. If it doesn't work out, at least you tried - and you will have the wonderful experience of having experienced his culture!

As for your family - they will have to live with your decision. I have been a dutiful daughter for many years, and I have never been thanked for it! I wish I had been braver at your age Ask your family if they have any better ideas on who you should date, or if they want you to become some mad old spinster! If your parents love you, they will ultimately accept that maybe you know best.

One final thought: if your parents are determined not to support you, you must ensure you are financially independent. Make sure you have enough money for rent and a plane fares! If you move in with him, check that your qualifications are valid in your boyfriend's country, so that you can get a job. If this is not practical, it might be wiser to insist that your boyfriend comes to stay with you.

Good Luck!

[nicky47]

Nationality is of no importance to me. I need to be with someone compatible, thoughtful, kind, funny and intelligent , someone I can respect and trust. Beyond that I couldn't care less where they're from. I am French and have been with a Brit for over 19 years now , before that I had a serious relationship with an American and also dated other nationalities, and races.
People are people. Yes as human beings we do tend to congregate with other similar people but I also think that as individuals we can all transcend race and culture. It's just a question of giving people a chance and being open minded ( it needs to be on both sides though).

A friend of mine is married to a Moroccan Muslim and they have a wonderful marriage as he is moderate and educated.
I think you need to know exactly what you want in life and from your relationship and go into it with open eyes.
Cultural and ethnic barriers, are difficult to surmount but they should not be dismissed out of hand, otherwise you might miss out on the love of your life.

[Lorry]

There is a difference, people are different, and they differ from one country to another, these differences can be linked with their culture, traditions and taboos. They can be together just in case when they really love each other and nothing will stay on their way.