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[Steven]

A friend of mine has a complex - he can't communicate with a girl!
Tell me, how can I help him, what advice should I give him in the matter of what about and how he should talk to a girl so that she is not bored?

[Benn]

I call this a gift given by God. One can easily talk to a girl without straining himself, another can't even approach a girl.
First you have to understand what girls need. They need an uninhibited men (not exceeding the limits of course). They want honest guys, but, don't load her with your problems. You can talk about any stupid topics, but be honest. Girls like the sense of humor, that's why add the latter in each of the topics you discuss.

[Faw_Peter]

Never invent your imaginary dialogue, like "I will tell her ... and she will tell me...". It's not gonna work, there is always an original answer for each question. Just think about a topic you'd like to talk about. Don't make big breaks, don't think about what you're speaking, I mean if you have something to say, just say it.

[M.Helen]

what we, the girls, need is a man who is confident and never worries about anything. If you have problems in communicating with a girl, try to imagine you talk to your friend or mate.

[Terry]

Girls and boys are different people. Each of them have something (especially girls) which can make you confused.
The only option, until you acquire experience, is to find a girl which is shy, just as you are.

[willyoumind]

Well, I have no problem communicating with the girls, and most of my girl friends (PS: the ordinary type) always unveils their secrets to me...

[Terry]

how you do that Will? Share the secret with us. I mean I don't have problems with that, but you never no...
There is always something to learn about

[Big_Becka]

Maybe your friend just needs to find a girl he has something in common with? I know guys who have this complex, but it's because they talk to girls who are into, for example, fashion while they are into sports. There are some bitches in the world, but most of us are friendly human beings

[Terry]

I love you for your words, Becka.
But, do you really think there are girls who normally will have the same interests as a common man would?

[Big_Becka]

Of course I do! Well, not everyone has the exact same interests, but this makes life interesting

Girls do a lot of things nowadays that women didn't used to do - it is not so hard to find a girl who works as an electrician, or supports a football team, or dreams of owning a sports car. And even very traditional, effeminate girls will have some kind of interest - for example, a girl who studied fine art might enjoy seeing computer graphics and comic books?

I think most girls like it if you ask a little about them: even if it is just what kind of movies they like, or what food they enjoy. It can be annoying when a guy tries to treat you like some average woman. Besides, you don't want to buy smoked salmon for a vegetarian girl, or buy flowers that signify a death (white lilies) or an illness (red and white flowers) for a superstitious girl.

You know, often girls are very insecure too. We are taught not too talk too much and look stupid in front of men I know very beautiful girls who think they are too fat (or too thin), too ugly, too uneducated, their breasts are too small...

[Steven]

Thank you for advices, I will keep you in touch with the things going on.

[Benn]

You know, often girls are very insecure too. We are taught not too talk too much and look stupid in front of men I know very beautiful girls who think they are too fat (or too thin), too ugly, too uneducated, their breasts are too small...

That's bad to hear girls have so many complexes. I like free-minded girls, able to speak about anything. If they have a minus (like you mentioned - ugly, fat, small breasts etc.) I think it's not a problem, because nobody's perfect. But, once they are involved in communication with a guy, these complexes must be forgotten, since the guy already likes them (if they started a talk)